One of my girlfriends from high school told me I have grown up faster than all of them. I guess it's because I am the only one currently married
and currently expecting a baby. There's only one friend I can think of who is also married. Everyone else is either in school or working. I told my husband, "I'm going to be the first one of my friends to have a baby." My stepson (who was in the car with us), wryly commented, "Well, you are
only 19." Yeah, I know, but the thing that bothers me the most is that I have no one wearing the same shoes as me. Which is kind of nerve-wracking, to say the least. I don't like to do things by myself or be the first to try new things! But that's what ended up happening.
In growing up too fast, I have also grown up by myself. There's a big rift between my friends and me, and I can't help but wonder if I put it there, by choosing a family over education. It's hard to stay in touch, because we lead such different lives now. My days consist of cleaning, nursery-room prepping, cooking, and studying for a single class. Very different from my double-major declaring friends. *
Sigh* I kind of wish I had one friend who is doing the same thing as me. Someone who understands my pregnancy woes because she's feeling them too. Someone to compare baby names and due dates with. Maybe then I wouldn't feel quite so alone.
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Yeah it's hard. I had a few friends that were pregnant about the same time I was (at 17...) but we weren't that close. A majority of my "friends" pretty much stopped talking to me after I told everyone I was pregnant. It was crappy but I've moved on to make better friends.
Joining a mom group on meetup.com was one of the best things I've done. I was the youngest (by far) but just having friends I could relate to really helped. Even now in my local play group I'm the youngest by 6 years AND have the most kids. It's pretty funny.
Yeah, I know what ya mean... I'm "a stranger in a strange land", don't have any close friends, really, except my husband, and the people we occasionally hang out with are nowhere close to being married, let alone having babies... it's hard!
But guess what, I'll be your friend! I've been very neglectful of my Momaroo blog, but I AM around ;)
Feel free to message me!
@TornadoChaser -I have been friends with the same group of girls since middle school, and out of all those girls, not one has bothered to call or even Facebook me since I got pregnant! These were the same girls who discouraged me from getting married. Argh, I need to make better friends! On a happier note, I just found out that my school has a group/educational program for young moms! I'm really looking forward to meeting other moms and making friends at my new school.
@Mom2Be - LOL, that quote applies to me too. And thank you for being my friend! That's very sweet.
Even though I dont have kids (yet) and am not pregnant, I totally know what you mean on this one! I decided to do things a little differently from the people who were my friends in high school... and now it is like they dont have time for me. (and then there is one who disowned me)
I hope that group at your school works out for you!
@der_lila_Stern@xanga - I feel like my friends don't have time for me either. 90% of the time, I'm the one initiating the contact and dropping a line to say "hi". If I didn't do that, I'd never hear from them.
I'm so happy that I stumbled upon that group. Looking very forward to it.
@Mom2Be - I'm glad your baby shower was fun! I love to shop for baby things-my husband has to drag me away from the baby section of every store we go to. It's definitely one of the more fun things to do.
For baby prep, we're just now finally getting in the swing of things! This weekend we're going to rearrange our bedroom to accommodate the baby. We now have clothes (so cute!), diapers, and lots of baby toiletries. We're going to start buying the bigger stuff like the crib, changing table, car seat, etc. in the next two weeks. I created a baby registry online so my friends back home can buy me stuff. I'm so excited!
@RoAngie467 - Yeah, we have to go through the baby section in every store we're in too and then my Mr. is way ahead of me because I'm always stopping and looking and saying, "awww, isn't this just too cute!" and so on and so forth ;)
We have the nursery painting almost finished. It's yellow and blue, with white trim, and I'm hoping to find a cheap Curious George wallpaper border and maybe a poster or something. Then we need to find some carpet for in there, hopefully a remnant or something. I found a Pak'n'Play at a garage sale for $5, in really good shape. The crib needs to be finished spray painted. And we need a changing table and carseat yet. And 2 weeks before my due date I will go into Babies'R'Us to buy some stuff off my registry that I don't have yet (you get a discount on anything on your registry there, within 2 weeks of your due date). And then hopefully we will be ready! Well- as ready as we'll ever be!
It's funny how everything changes in the blink of an eye. The group of girls that you thought you'd be friends with for life is rarely ever there now. Life just takes a surprising turn, I guess, but keep in mind that it's not always for the worse. I really wish I lived closer to you so I can at least come see you every weekend and give you a helping hand once in a while. I know things are tough now and you feel alone with no one close to you to relate. At least take comfort in knowing that there are still some people out there who support you and care for you (hint, hint).
And uh, I was thinking of sending you something for the baby shower, but honest to goodness we're kinda broke right now and a card is all I can manage to give you at this time.
Take care, sweets.
@Southeast_Beauty@xanga -The way I see it, we all have just different priorities right now, and that's okay. Maybe in the future, we'll be in the same place. Oh, and don't worry about getting something (I like cards!). It really is the thought that counts and I appreciate everything you do.